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10 Tough Truths About Love & Relationships
Relationships, while deeply fulfilling, often are made more complex than they need to be. This happens when we ignore reality, indulging in wishful thinking, or compromising our values. This can lead us to entertain people and situations where we feel devalued or disrespected.
It’s important to face the truth head-on.
Embrace these 10 harsh truths about relationships to make it easier to find a meaningful connection:
1. Boundaries should not be negotiable or movable
Boundaries protect us from poor experiences. They are your way of establishing for yourself and others those things you need in order to feel valued in a relationship. If they are constantly shifting and changing to accomodate another person, then they are no longer boundaries and can be categorized as suggestions instead. Compromising on your boundaries is the quickest way to feel disrespected and communicate to the other party that you lack standards and will accept any kind of treatment.
2. Potential is fantasy.
Deal with the person you see before you, not who you think they will be or who you hope they will become. They may grow or change. They may always remain the same. Building relationships based on potential is a recipe for…
