A Fool Proof Formula: My Easy First Date Rules

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What you accept in the beginning, sets the precedent for the future so you must be very intentional about your standards from day one. Here is what I will and won’t do for a first date:

Pre-Date:

• I stopped being nice a long time ago. By nice, I mean, I stopped saying yes to dates just to avoid hurting feelings. If I’m not attracted to a man or not interested, I do not accept the date.
• It has become quite clear that I sometimes end up on “dates” masked as “catch-ups” with men whose intentions were not very clear to me from the onset. I refuse to do this. Going forward, I will unabashedly clarify from those interested men masked as “friends” “Is this a date?”
• I will not accept last-minute dates. Make a plan and ask me out properly in advance.
• I don’t plan dates and I hate when men ask, “so what do you want to do?” If you need my input, offer some suggestions and I’ll offer guidance.
• I have never accepted Netflix and Chill as a first date. Not even during a pandemic. Not even in college. I’m not about to start now.
• In fact all low effort dates are automatic declines: walks in the park, coffee, stargazing, etc. NO THANK YOU!
• I’m not going to be pen pals forever and a day before we go out on…