Finding Love Starts With Self-Love

Jacqueline Atulip
4 min readMay 25, 2024
Photo by Sydney Sang

When dating, you cannot over-emphasize the importance of self-love. It is the foundation for healthy relationships. It gives you the strength and confidence you need to navigate a wild dating landscape. A landscape often full of many different personalities. Finding a healthy love always starts with loving yourself first. Undoubtedly, there is strong link between valuing yourself and building a healthy love life.

The Foundation of Self-Love in Dating

Self-love is about seeing your worth. It’s about treating yourself with kindness and respect. Loving yourself empowers you to date with confidence and ensures that you don’t date out of neediness or in an attempt to fill a void.

When you love yourself, you honor yourself by clearly communicating your needs and wants. This sets the stage for healthy attachments.

It also serves as a guideline for your interactions with potential partners. You will easily recognize when someone aligns with your values. You will also be able to discern when it’s time to walk away.

This level of self-awareness and clarity is attractive. It primes you to gravitate to people who will mirror the treatment you give yourself.

Self-love also fosters resilience, allowing you to recover from setbacks and rejections…



Jacqueline Atulip

I write about love, dating, sex, and relationships. Helping you to manifest your best love life. Follow me: @jacquelineatulip |