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How to DM Without Being Creepy
I love scrolling my social media feeds and seeing the best most people have to offer of themselves on my timeline. I try to balance scrolling, with work, on most days and not get completely sucked into the black hole that can rob me of productivity. On my IG account, I often have men pulling into my dms looking for a connection. Many times I don’t even bother to respond. After all, I don’t know the vast majority of these people at all, have no reference and am too apprehensive about striking up a connection with a stranger. Also, their intros are usually lame, creepy, and sleazy. There have been occasions when I did respond and I’m happy to say, we went from strangers to IG penpals. Bantering back and forth about stories or shared life experiences. Those are always refreshing and I have to admit, I enjoy positively connecting with quality people. If you want to slide into the dms without being creepy, here are a few things you can try:
- Pleasantries on content — Striking up a conversation around content is a smart way to genuinely connect with someone. Most of us don’t mind a little ego-stroking from time to time. You can use these as a foundation and add your sparkle to make it more uniquely yours.
- Genuine flattery will get you everywhere — Hi, I’ve been following you for a while. I enjoy watching your stories. I just wanted to introduce myself and share that you…
