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The Intriguing Way Your Attachment Style Influences the Way You Love
On my first date with a new prospect, he flippantly shared that his mother never wanted him and she often told him this much. Because of her, he couldn’t be touched and went through a lot of therapy to become open to more physical intimacy. As we got to know each other, his mother’s influence was still so strong, even though he stopped having a relationship with her when he left home at 12. He was 50. He didn’t celebrate birthdays because she never celebrated his. The more he shared, I started to realize that this was bound to affect how he related to me. Especially, when he started to repeatedly question how I felt about him. How I would describe him? And the list goes on.
It was obvious his neglectful and abusive mother influenced his relationship behavior. It wasn’t long before I started pondering how my background, impacted my
What is attachment theory?
Attachment theory explains that our relationship with our primary parent or caretaker significantly influences our expectations in our love relationships.
