What Men Say vs What Men Mean

I read a long time ago that a man would rather chop off his own foot then blatantly reject a woman. Most men are usually not very direct when they don’t like you, or you are simply not “the one” for them. Despite their behavior being very clear, here is a list of the coded language they use that all means the same thing. If you here one of these, don’t rationalize why you should stick around and see how things play out. You are only avoiding the inevitable, “he just doesn’t like you…ENOUGH”.

1. I’m busy!

What he really means: I’m not prioritizing spending time with you right

We all have the same 24 hours in a day. However, we all choose to spend our time differently. If he is too busy to see you, or communicate with you, there are things and people that he prioritizes over you. Simple. Don’t rationalize it or make excuses in your head about how demanding his job is. You are not a priority for him.

2. Let’s just see where things go.

What he really means: I‘m not ready to commit, but I don’t want to end things either.

Basically, he wants to and will play in your face for as long as you allow and as long as he is enjoying himself. Intention is everything and men who want to commit to you, will and do. Simply put, he wants to keep his options open. Take this as your cue to do the same.

3. I’m not looking for anything serious right now.

What he really means: I‘m not interested in a committed relationship with you.

Add the “with you” on to some of these excuses, because that part is silent and too many of us fail to realize that.

If you were his dream girl or if he wanted to commit, he would and will be interested in something serious, I recently had a friend who was interested a man early spring of last year. They messed around for a little while until the man finally told her he wasn’t interested and shortly thereafter, he met someone new. My friend a glutton for punishment, decided to reach out to him at the beginning of this year. Much to her dismay, the man was engaged to be married to the woman he told her about. Long story short, he had no problem with a serious relationship and…