Women Value Men With Resources — Make More of It or Shut up!

Jacqueline Atulip
4 min readJan 16, 2022
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A scrub is a guy that thinks he’s fly

And is also known as a buster

Always talking ‘bout what he wants

And just sits on his broke ass

So, no, I don’t want your number

No, I don’t wanna give you mine

And no, I don’t wanna meet you nowhere

No, I don’t want none of your time (TLC’s “No Scrubs”)

I remember happily singing along to this song when it first came out. Although at the time it never really factored into my worldview, I remember agreeing with the general sentiment of not wanting to give a man a chance, who was below my standards.

Fast forward to the present day with a growing movement of men who resent women who expect and require men to spend their money in exchange for a woman’s time, companionship and courtship. I certainly will not place the blame squarely on men for this shift. The pervasive feminist ideology continues to deliver an extreme version of women’s independence that would deny both the presence and importance of a woman’s basic femininity, while glorifying and promoting a financial model where men receive the same benefits from women that they always received, at half the price. How sway?!

Yes, there are increasingly more women in the workforce than there used to be, but this doesn’t negate the fact that the average woman still expects and requires a man to be a provider. Whether or not he is the SOLE provider is a personal choice. Nonetheless, a woman respects, desires, and prefers a man with more resources and the men with the most resources will always have the most and best selection when it comes to picking a mate. It’s not a superficial desire, it’s survival. If all men are created equal, I could just as easily love a wealthy one, as a “struggling” one, especially if I have to deal with the same relationship challenges from both.

When I have conversations about this with friends, associates, social settings, the entire group becomes divided. Without fail, insults, complaints, and derogatory comments always rear their ugly heads. Instead of accepting this as a fact, or even simply my myopic worldview, men almost always label me a gold digger…



Jacqueline Atulip

I write about love, dating, sex, and relationships. Helping you to manifest your best love life. Follow me: @jacquelineatulip | www.jacquelineatulip.com